Dialogue In The Parenting Role

فَلَمَّا بَلَغَ مَعَهُ السَّعْيَ قَالَ يَا بُنَيَّ إِنِّي أَرَىٰ فِي الْمَنَامِ أَنِّي أَذْبَحُكَ فَانْظُرْ مَاذَا تَرَىٰ ۚ قَالَ يَا أَبَتِ افْعَلْ مَا تُؤْمَرُ ۖ سَتَجِدُنِي إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ مِنَ الصَّابِرِينَ

Then, when the child reached (the age of serious) work together him, he said: "O my son! I saw in a dream that I sacrifice. Then think about what you think!" He replied: "O my father, do what ye are commanded thee, God willing, you will find me among those who are patient". (Ash-Shaffat: 102)

The above verse is a fragment of the events in the final seconds before the implementation of the slaughter of Ismail by his father, Prophet Ibrahim at God's command. Just imagine how tense Ibrahim at the time. Imagine also how Ismail while answering a question that was about to kill his father. Imagine the reaction of the mother, Siti Hajar who have bothered to raise their children alone (single parent), without her husband until nearly mature age, then suddenly came the husband to kill his son at God's command?

The atmosphere was definitely quiet, lonely, and stressful. It's okay to Ibrahim hiding his tension, but the words were out of his mouth definitely broken. Not only that, previously tested in the kink Ibrahim had to leave his wife, Siti Hajar and his son, Ishmael, in the valley of heaven, which does not promise any life there.

What makes Abraham rigid and motionless to execute commands outside the bounds of logic is that? First, Ibrahim has made God in the highest position in his life. For Ibrahim, and should be so for all the Muslims, God is everything. Love to God must be placed in the first and foremost.

وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَشَدُّ حُبًّا لِلَّهِ

"As for those who believe God's profound love for..." (Al-Baqarah 165)

Second, Abraham believed that God commands a heavy behind does not even make sense that there was more to the unknown. He believes if the command was executed certainly auspicious. God never commanded anything except be good for him, for his family, and for all mankind.

Confidence was evident, with rescue Siti Hajar and Ismail when left alone in the Sahara desert that has no vegetation whatsoever. For the second time, the belief was proven by Ibrahim Ismail rescued when slaughtered with Allah be replaced by a fat sheep.

Ibrahim perfect confidence that is what made ​​the capital while conveying his intention to carry out the commands of God, slay his son. He prefers a laudable though very heavy, the dialogue cases can be very dangerous for the safety of their children. Ibrahim Salih believes that children would want to and are willing to accept the truth, even if very hard for her.

Actually, the order to slaughter Ismail can be done in various ways. Ibrahim free to choose any way, including secretly falling asleep when her son was killed instantly. However, Ibrahim chose a more knights. That tells his son, an understanding, and gives him confidence that all of the commandments certainly good ending. Ibrahim chose to dialogue in order to find out how his mental readiness, the depth of faith, as well as his sublime morality.

Not wrong, Ibrahim has received his soothing answers. Ismail said, "O my father! Implement the dictates of (Allah) upon you, God willing, you shall find me among those who are patient." Through this answer we know that faith is not less Ismail teens with his father, Ibrahim, who is much more mature. Through this event, Abraham received appreciation and praise of God.

(111) سَلَامٌ عَلَىٰ إِبْرَاهِيمَ (109) كَذَٰلِكَ نَجْزِي الْمُحْسِنِينَ (110) إِنَّهُ مِنْ عِبَادِنَا الْمُؤْمِنِينَ

"Congratulations peace for Ibrahim. Thus do We reward those who do good. Indeed, he was among Our servants who believe." (Ash-Shaffat 109-111)

Through these events we can take the lesson that education should best be done through a healthy dialogue. Parents and teachers should not impose his will to his children. It could be our children that we usually consider it better immaturity better, more faithful, more moral and more intelligent than ourselves, the parents and teachers.

Third, all the problems, no matter how, any urgent, can be solved by dialogue. The difference could be a very distant brought near the dialog. Any severe disputes can be resolved through dialogue. Wallahu a'lam bish-shawab.